OP, You are doing well. Most of us that come here have the "fixer" pattern down to a science. All you can really do is step back and allow your w to figure things out for herself. You've been doing that and she appears to be coming around a little bit at a time.
Keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
