This is my 2nd time going thru a separation with my W, and the 1st time we hadn't been married yet. I didn't come here or go anywhere for help, just did it on my own. Looking back I did pursue, but not as obsessively as I did during the start of this 1 and I stopped completely before she came back. Since then we did get married & had another child together. What really worked was not pursuing so much, and I GAL and started doing good for myself as far as work, etc. Remedy the problems she had with you before your separation, but don't do anything to show her that you changed, let her see it on your own. Do it for yourself, not for her. Get some friends, go out on dates, start your life and if it's something to be proud of maybe she'll join it.
This is also my 2nd time going through a separation with my ex. The first time was when she was turning 21 and wanted to go out and party with her friends and didnt want to be tied down..."I need space" essentially. Back then I got her back by spending time with her...essentialy wooing her all over again so that friends became FWB that became a comitted R again. Back then she didnt have anyone else she hooked up with or was already seeing which gave me the ability to pursue her without having any competition.
As far as your last statement goes Mark I'm actually going on a date this weekend. If it goes well another will follow and another. If it doesnt turn into anything serious, I'm hoping to at least make a new friend out of it. If it does become serious at some point, all the better for me. I'm looking forward to my ex becoming nothing more to me than an "ex"change courrier for D3.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
