Yeah, V day was just the icing on the cake for his "quietness" last week, and it brought out the insecurities in full force. The two nights I texted him first last week, there were only a couple texts and then he said he was going to bed and goodnight. He did text me one morning and said "hey stranger" and we "talked" so I tried to use that to calm myself, but... Everyone here knows where the mind goes.
Things are back to normal though so far this week. He's texted me first both nights and we've talked for a couple hours each time. I guess it really was him not feeling well and I was reading too much into it all. He has a habit of just quickly cooling off with me so I'm still on high alert for that--even though like I've said, it's never lasted his long before or been this "normal" either.
Last night he was telling me that he told people at work about our camping trip and he said they were all asking him if we were getting back together. He's only had this job for a year so well past all the bombs. I just said, "Oh..." in reply to that. I didn't ask what he said in answer to that. My philosophy--don't ask questions you might not be ready for honest answers to.
Then he said that his sister's husband "caught" us too when he saw H's truck here early one morning. I just said ha--I guess the driveway isn't a good hiding place. And of course his parents know he's been staying here sometimes because they're across the road and his Dad brings over the Sunday paper when they're done with it Sunday mornings.
We were talking about more vacations last night and one place he wants to go is to Florida where my grandmother and aunt and uncles live. When we lived in SC we'd drive there often and that was where we were going to move to until we ended up back in NY. My family there all adored him and I know if we went there, they'd treat him as if nothing happened. The last time we were there together was when I was pregnant and things were just starting to get rocky. I remember crying behind my sunglasses one morning as we were out to coffee because he was acting different to me.
One dark spot in all this is I think we're going to have to put our remaining 15 year old cat down soon. She has a badly infected eye that doesn't seem to be clearing up from anything the vet gave me for her. I think it got scratched by the kitten I have. And since she got all those meds at the vet, she's regurgitating dry food almost instantly. She eats the canned pate food ok and has a great appetite. Better than ever, in fact. She has other existing health problems and probably isn't fit for anything involving anesthesia (she stopped breathing a few years ago during an operation), not to mention I can't afford it. I feel terribly guilty.
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The two nights I texted him first last week, there were only a couple texts and then he said he was going to bed and goodnight. He did text me one morning and said "hey stranger" and we "talked" so I tried to use that to calm myself, but... Everyone here knows where the mind goes.
She has a badly infected eye that doesn't seem to be clearing up from anything the vet gave me for her. I think it got scratched by the kitten I have. And since she got all those meds at the vet, she's regurgitating dry food almost instantly. She eats the canned pate food ok and has a great appetite. Better than ever, in fact. She has other existing health problems and probably isn't fit for anything involving anesthesia (she stopped breathing a few years ago during an operation), not to mention I can't afford it. I feel terribly guilty. 
