Reading all the frustration breaks my heart. Good luck to you mr wolf. It sounds like you and your wife love each other and I hope you can work out the issues.
Met/Sex: 3/93, married 2000 HD ME: 38 (Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon) LD HE: 37 (Cancer Sun & Moon) DD: 8.5, DS: 7 Intimate 2x/lunar cycle before cutting self off in attempt to change behavior pattern