Are you saying that a court ordered her to pay you more, but she failed to comply? Why wasn't she found in contempt of court?
The judge lowered the amount of family support she was ordered to provide. In addition, due to the fact that the respondent is claiming that the buisness is not making as much money, she is in hardship and therefore couldn't pay what had been previously ordered. So, my lawyer let the chareges go. He told me its a female judge and I am a college graduate, and the true harsh reality of this whole situation is........ I am a man and she is a mom. He went on to say that if the genders were reversed, and I was a female this case would be a slam dunk on our side.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
But regardless, [b]stay on message, keep it short and above ALL else, remain calm in front of her and the boys. Don't quibble so much.
I feel I have made vast strides in the keeping it short arena. I made a choice back in October to stop the back and forth emails and texts with her where we went on and on. I told her that I was done with that type of comunication and I want peace and I will now put my complete focus on raising my sons.
As for the rest of your advice, I made a choice back in May 2009 when I filed for divorce to handle all communication in a respectful, healthy and transparent way in all issues regarding our sons. In addition, I made the decision for myself that I would never speak negatively about her in front of my sons when they were with me nor would I ever speak disparagingly about her to my sons. This is the one area of this whole process that I feel I have handled with the greatest maturity and consisancy and I will continue to do so.
In fact, the respondentbegan her campain of parental alienation right from the start and I heard about it from my sons. My response was simply,"I will never speak badly about your mother, she is your mother and you love and need her. I have to much repect for you two boys to speak bad about her. I don't want you boys to ever speak bad about her either, we are better than that."
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
in states like California, "parental alienation" (=bad mouthing the other parent, in front of the kids) can cost a parent custody...no joke. It is VERY frowned upon....(you might want to let your w know that too....)
I have only recently even heard the term "paretal alienation", in my case she is real bad about it, but I don't know what I can do, or who will actually listen to my complaint about it without just suspecting I am playing games.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
Does your L think it'd hurt you to earn more now pending resolution of financial matters??
Unfortunately, I have been unable to find better employment as of yet. In fact, just last week I was informed that I was not chosen for a good county job as a biologist after a written exam, and two oral board interviews. My financiel situation is scary for me right now. I can't even put it into words how bad.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
How do you feel about your L?
I owe my lawyer several thousand dollers and he has informed me that he will make one last attempt to get a financiel settlement with the respondent, but if she doesn't go for it I am on my own from here out.
My father, whom I owe about 15 thousand, has told me he would mo longer loan me anymore money.
