@FM - Love it= I will check that book out! Gosh how humiliating if I'm to blame for him "treating me like a doormat". Ugh this is hard. Well, I am reading to grow~

@Freckle - whew. thank you. relief. I never know if I'm overreacting to H or if it is as abusive as it feels. Having you reaffirm this helps me feel a lot stronger.

Man, after reading my own post, I have to agree with you. i wouldn't advise me to stay with him either! I really love your advice and appreciate your acknowledgement. I think my goals need to focus on how to stand up to him a lot more. Recognizing verbal abuse is so hard, you think how can this person who once loved me and who I still think I love really be mean? Well time for a reality check!

I have to remind myself that mr. Hope is actually acting unacceptably and I'm letting him get away with it. He is bullying and I'm accepting it. Gosh, what is wrong with me? Time for some major changes. Yes, I've made a lot of changes. But there's still a long way to go and it doesn't have to include getting any recognition from H! You ladies are the BEST cheerleaders I've ever known. THANK YOU!!!


Me: 42
Him: 43

Two divorcees in a relationship