I do not think I am going to completely turn off the light, just turn down the dimmer...
Sorry I did not respond to your question earlier but you seem to be getting the idea.
I think the path that you are on is correct. Certainly you can do nothing to harm your children. However as far as your W is concerned you can go as dark as possible. This might just be that if she is in one room you go to another. Try to keep any interactions that you do have as light and friendly as possible.
I sent you a friend request in the alt I think. If you need to ask anything else I will try to drop in on your thread a little more.
