Is this piecing?

[flowmom]

It sounds like the comments are feeling verbally abusive to you, so I can understand your wanting to do something about them, not just ignore them.

I'm finding the book Why Men Love Bitches very useful. There's a lot in there on how a woman can react with dignity and self-respect when they are not being treated well. That book deals with dating and there's a followup book called Why Men Marry Bitches. An amazon reviewer of the latter wrote:

Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests.

As I wrote before, I think the baiting is a test.