My Story...grass is greener (pt 2)

[MarkG]

This is my 2nd time going thru a separation with my W, and the 1st time we hadn't been married yet. I didn't come here or go anywhere for help, just did it on my own. Looking back I did pursue, but not as obsessively as I did during the start of this 1 and I stopped completely before she came back. Since then we did get married & had another child together. What really worked was not pursuing so much, and I GAL and started doing good for myself as far as work, etc. Remedy the problems she had with you before your separation, but don't do anything to show her that you changed, let her see it on your own. Do it for yourself, not for her. Get some friends, go out on dates, start your life and if it's something to be proud of maybe she'll join it.