Thought I was done

[MarkG]

Wow.... why did we all start snooping at the same time? Weirdness. Maybe I can shed some light on this. 1st off, don't continue anything physical or pursuing, and don't give in to her pursuit right away if she starts. If she leaves OM tell her you're still interested but so hurt that you don't know if it will work and you need time to heal. I was reflecting on my W's message to OM and a letter my W wrote me the last time she left, which is how I think I will gauge progress, and you might try too. So here's my W's message to OM:

I just wanted to send u a message telling u how much I love u and I am glad we met because I never see myself complete without u in my life soon we will be a big happy family and live the rest of our lives happy and in love . Everyday I wake up to u and fall in love with u more everyday. Love u sexy

^ ouch.... BUT.... compare that to the letter my W wrote me to get me back the last time (she had a PA, walked away, I moved on, she came back, this was also before we were married)

To the love of my life. I just wanted to write you a note telling you I love you with everything I have. No1 else will ever have my whole heart like you. I have no doubts in my mind that I will never regret to dedicate my whole life to you and our family. All the fears I had about marriage have melted away and now I feel like a little kid on Christmas and I can't wait until I get the ultimate gift of becoming your wifey. So here is a letter for you to read when away from me to let you know I love you (pet name).

Your (pet name),
W

Letters are letters, and the 1 she wrote him doesn't seem to be as deep as the 1 she wrote me, so I'm still comfortable waiting a while to see what happens with them. I'm still going to DB, detach, GAL, and even date. I'm waiting but not letting her know that I am. Even if it doesn't work out I'm prepared for that. Either way it's still too early to move on so I don't mind waiting. It's too early for both you and me to exclude any possibilities, make any sudden moves, or get close to our W's either.