LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
H & OW are now burning up there phones. They are now talking to each other all the time, more then ever. I know everyone says there convo are not good. Should I be worried about how much their talking has increased?
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
mb, you are mind-reading. Even if you could look in a crystal ball and see their every action and hear their every word, it would not help you to do the work of GAL and detaching. Rebuilding ourselves is not easy or comfortable, but it's something we can do for ourselves, when our world has been turned upside down by things that we can't control. Obsessing about my sitch is my downfall too, so believe me I know how hard it is. Can you post three things that you can do to stop the obsessing when you think about H/OW?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I found out last night that my drunken uncle called my H and bashed him for abandoning me and the kids. My H is a great dad, and I've never complained about him as far as the kids. Of course my H took it out on me, it's my entire fault. I've ruined him by telling everyone all these false things about him. I just responded with "He is a drunk, and no one else has ever said anything about you as a father". I know I shouldn't had responded, however I did feel bad that my uncle did that. After I sent that text, my H apologized for upsetting me. I didn't respond.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Flowmom, It really helps knowing I'm not the only one that obsesses. Thank you for telling me to post three things, that really helps:
1. Play with kids 2. Watch a funny show 3. Exercise
Good for you! Next time you successfully stop obsessing by doing one of the above, please post it in your thread so that we can celebrate that!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Almost time for bed, and first day in a long time with NC with H. It was mostly nice not having no drama moments. However, towards the end of the night, I start wondering what he's up too and who he is with )-:
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
