The tunnel of darkness

[kjensen]

D12 is angry at her dad, understandably. She feels abandoned.

H hasn't a clue right now why D12 is angry with him. She is not willing/ready to talk to him about it, yet. He is sensing her anger though as she expresses it only as a 12 year old can..sullen looks, refusing to respond to texts/calls/emails, closed-off postures, minimal conversation when asked questions...

So H asks me why I took the morning off to take D12 to the doctor(she has strep) when he was "happily" willing to help(now!). I say she asked me to(and don't say she didn't want H to take her).

So he texts me on FB that he texted, called and emailed D12 today and she didn't respond.

Question: Is there a point where I clue H in, nicely?

I haven't done this up to now because I don't want to get in the middle. I don't want to get in a position with H where he understands why D12 is mad and then defends himself to me or attacks me(I refused to leave so he had to).

I hope that D12 will be able to have this conversation with her father, when she is ready. But it is painful to see H asking these questions and not "getting" it.


Any thoughts or ideas? Just let it be?