Good for you for standing your ground and insisting the sleep over go forward.
YES your H over-reacted (big-time and very inappropriately)....but I'm not so sure it was for "no reason".
You say he's changed in these ways since the A's? Was there a dynamic before this time where you were the one who carried more control?
Just wondering as it seems that these "explosions" and "veiled threats" seem like (misguided) efforts to percieve (and even elicit) more control in these situations.
Now THIS would be something to really get to the root of. And more importantly, have him realize that he needs to curtail these urges if he wants things to work out!
Now you're right to just let this one process before deciding your whole M was a mistake!
Just seems to me that for some reason your H (fair or not) doesn't FEEL heard or perhaps respected enough???
