Well when the weather is good, we've been known to go outside together, it's not that, it's that H and I never spend time together alone - only when it's S focussed.
As for the 2x4 I'll take that. It's a little different now because we are in MC and we are talking about specifics we need each other to change. And, we've talked about how H doesn't believe I'm changing even though I am. So it's no mystery. But it's true about having a one- up attitude instead of a one-down attitude. It's true I struggle with his jibes, as it is a bit of an MO with him. I feel quite put down when he accuses me of something I simply don't do any more and then he takes credit for "making me behave" as he used to say. It's quite insulting. And I never know what to say. It feels like an attack, so it feels like I should defend my own honor. It's quite unbelievable to me that he can see our R this way.
I am very open to suggestions as my responses may be weak. I'm just not there yet that i don't take his anger or bait or jibes. I'm really bad at it. So suggestions welcome
