My Story...grass is greener (pt 2)

[MrBond]

"But no I'm not solely responsible for the "mess"."

She's referring to the stuff you've been doing so far.

"I wont argue the quality of the advice...but it is primarily designed to work in situations where theres still a legal tie between two people...a marriage. When she left...there was/is nothing legally binding her to me...no required MC...no remaining in the home because half of it is hers, etc."

Wrong. pearlharbor isn't married either but it worked for her too. She listened.

"And lets not forget the OM...she left me so she could be with him. Given his success and articulation skills when she needed a shoulder...its unlikely that anything I did or didnt do would have prevented them from being together."

Wrong again. She left you because of what you were doing before. It isn't right, but to say that she left because of the OM after everything you explained so far, is wrong.

"Unless he does something bad to her that I didnt, like physical or verbal abuse, their relationship is likely to last at least a couple years if not forever."

Get a counselor to talk about your self-esteem issues. And they ARE issues.