OK, I'm not a guy, and especially not a guy with many years of professional education on my resume. I'm a gal with a couple of college degrees who made the decision 30 years ago to forego a career to raise my Ds. There was, at the time, a lot of pressure on well-educated women to use their education to prove something to the world, to show that they could do it all, to pave the way for the younger women to come. It took a lot of meditation and a lot of visualization, but eventually I concluded that raising my children was my biggest responsibility and my highest priority. I was fortunate to be able to do that full time, and have not once regretted that decision, even now that I find myself alone. I eventually found that putting my children's needs above my own fulfilled needs that I didn't even know I had at the time.

Have you considered that this might be one of the lessons waiting for you on your part of your W's journey?

This is, of course, your decision to make. I urge you to take your time in making it, and whatever you decide, do your best for your boys within whatever constraints accompany it. Put them very near the top of your todo list, every day.


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Two Ds

Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man