Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[courageous wife]

Ok! My goals were 1. get the visits with the kids on a schedule...we talked about it but with H's work and possible OT every weekend it is hard as he works midnight-8:00am so we just have to kinda play it by ear for now!

2. The coach thought that maybe H was not feeling needed here anymore. Kids went about their business and I have pretty much showed him that I can do this without his help when I had car trouble etc. (maybe I was dbing too well?) and that from my description of OW (probably needy and the fact that he stresses evertime he is here to not be afraid to call if we need anything)that he needs to feel needed so I was to have something that needed fixed. Well, he comes about every weekend to split wood for us to burn in the stove and this weekend the weather messed us up so hoping he can come this Sunday as the garage door is not opening correctly...

3. was to flirt a little...about 3 weeks ago he was here and really mad at me as I had changed the locks and he felt I was locking him out (that was after he brought OW here) and I remained calm and talked him "down" from that explaining that I was not locking him out but that I needed to feel safe here etc. Later, he playfully pinched my rear and then kissed me and we had a little playful sparring about that so coach thought I should flirt some. I don't know...never have been good at that he has been more distant since then so haven't had much of a chance to do that!

I called too late to get another appt with coach this week so looks like next Monday before I will talk to her again! She was very encouraging and even thought it is expensive, I am glad that I am doing it!