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[awest1217]

H finally text me tonight at 7 pm when he said he was leaving work. Very glad I didn't text him first because I think that would have ruined it. We texted for about an hour about his day. He didn't really ask about mine, but that is one thing that was lacking in our relationship before. H is very selfish and needs me to listen and reassure him all about his day, then if he has time he will ask about mine. Kind of what started this a little. I was tired of that, and the OW, and so I stopped talking about myself completely. H thought I was being mean, but he rarely asked so I thought why bother. He then stopped talking about himself and we grew apart. I am trying to listen again which is drawing us closer together, but I need him to ask about my day and not just how was your day, but actually ask follow up questions and listen like he wants me to do.

It was good that he did text me. Nothing about last night so I am just going to let that go. I am going to just try and do like I said keep fostering a good relationship with him and continue to show him I have changed; listening, not controlling, not holding a grudge. Now off to a bath. I need it because it was 1.5 hours of shoveling and a long night last night. I did say how I shoveled and H said he should have been there to help. I said that was ok because he was working, but inwardly thinking "you haven't been here to help all winter, or last spring or summer when I single handedly did everything around the yard that you always wanted to make the house more of what you want." Time to relax. Only three more days until the weekend. Then Finals week and a new trimester that should be much better than this one. My classes are smaller and the students I have most I know and they are more calm than I have now. Then it is D-day. Everything is starting to fall into place for me. Hard stuff might be ahead, but I am feeling good right now and will take that.

Bath time!