you are a father

there is no "choice"

it is like asking me if I would cut out my own kidney to save my daughter
ummmmm...where's the knife???

My boys'dad stopped seeing them talking to them all contact with them when they were about 2 and 3

he was a horrid horrid boy
and did horrible evil things

and that was the worst

to make my two sweet babies want for something

he owes me over $60,000 in back child support and counting
I will never see a dime
and
I am glad he is no longer in their life
I am glad that they have a father...one that is better than he ever could have been
his memory has faded and my youngest can't even remember what he looked like...they refer to him as Jeremy

they are men that he never could have been

and

legal
he has no claim to them anymore (AMEN)

I am adopted by my dad
my biological dad is out of the picture

my DAD is the man who:
kissed my owies
tucked me in at night
taught me to fish
listens to the Grateful Dead
wore clogs and had long hair
taught me sing
built me a kite
gave me a spanking
felt badly about giving me a spanking
is proud of me
is the grampy to my babies

is that you or are you the guy who writes a check and didn't want to give anything up so they could have their dream

choice schmoice

My son needed someone to show him how to shoot
his dad did that and I don't mean the guy whose sperm mixed with my egg

how much more time are you willing for them to have a surrogate?