No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

25yearsmlc,

Thanks for the comments.

For awhile I've been at the point where I'm not worried about how my W perceives me anymore. I've already detached such that I understand that she will see me how she wishes to see me whether it be good or bad.

I, myself, just can't help be worried about her because she works with such a nut.

In fact, I hadn't been thinking of the OM as a person (the overall sitch with him, but not him as an individual) in awhile. Then he and his buddy come and threaten me Sopranos style.

I actually was smiling and being light about the whole thing when I was with them, because I saw how ridiculous they seemed. I felt they were afraid of something, but of what I had no clue. Then when I found out that the OM had spent the past two years trying to get me arrested, I was more surprised than angry. It seemed like it wasn't even real.

It's true that the best revenge is living well. When I saw the OM, I saw that he had noticeably aged and looked stressed. Me, I had no fear in me and felt pretty good as a whole. They just made themselves look bad.

I know that even something as extreme as this isn't going to change my W's mind, but that's her decision. I'm going to continue to protect my family (this does include my W) if these bozos try to do something. But I will not provoke or stir up any stress. They are doing a good enough job of shooting themselves in the foot as it is.

So while I am GAL-ing and detaching, I am going to keep a watchful eye out. Because even if they did something to just my W or myself, it would affect my kids as well.

Any prayers for my W's safety and well-being are appreciated.

I wondered if your H had gone through such a period of depression where he was just afraid to do anything from all the damage he had caused. I felt that's how my W felt when we were talking.

I'm glad I opened up to her and just told her that while she was feeling scared there were times that I felt the same. However that I would be there to stop anyone from threatening our family. Ack my life has become a Lifetime Movie of the Week.