Positives: 1. I gave 2 examples of what ways she has said in the last month that I’m improving to counter her argument that I had not improved as a husband. 2. I did not lose my temper 3. I accepted responsibility for interrupting her in a conversation earlier today, and most importantly, she recognized that I had noticed during the conversation and stopped myself when I noticed that she felt the conversation belonged to her and I had no role in it 4. I told her that I would not accept her “ripping at me” through personality attacks 5. She said that she felt belittled by me many times in the past, for which I apologized 6. She blamed me for our daughter crying about how she felt like a failure (she’s 10), and instead of defending or getting condescending. I simply let her know how I handled D10s feelings and gave evidence that I had noticed the problem, addressed it in good detail and care
Negatives: 1. W is getting angrier than before 2. W is hopeless and things that me + her = her and my daughters problems with esteem and more 3. W didn’t care that I was hurt by her words, in fact she seemed to be empowered by it 4. My little sapling of love I was beginning to feel is disappearing and being replaced by pain and a feeling of massive failure/shame.
