How to shake up spouse without having an affair?

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Cyrena:

There is a certain duality to my thinking...on the one hand, I was very clear what I was looking for and what I was looking to build in a new relationship. In thst sense, I can say I was "lied to" or simply ignored. OTOH, there is the complication associated with the whole menopause/hysterectomy scene, and on that score, I know that I am not alone. There was no way to know that what was on the horizon.

How that has played out over the years (both sexually and behaviorally) was also something that I did not expect. But then again, I did not expect my very robust sex life with my first wife, right up to two days before our son was born, would suddenly come to an end. For as prescient as I sometimesam or appear, I do have my share of life's surprises.

You aren't the first one to notice that I am far more willing to "suffer through" some situation. I just don't play the "victim" all that well. But when others give up, I'm still trudging on. This capacity shows up in a number of areas, not just here. And in other circumstances, that capacity looks completely different (not related to being a victim or a martyr) endurance and being "unstoppable."

It has occurred to me that there may be no honorable way out.