H wants to talk tomorrow! Please advise.

[mishka422]

HC,

There is no great way to enforce boundaries where the kids are concerned, but you are going to have to.

I assume you haven't agreed to a specific visitation schedule since he left? If not, then he does not get to dictate when he will see the kids.

D12, well....she's 12! She's a tween and entitled to her feelings. IMO, if he tries to push her to communicate with him he will be cutting off his own foot. 12 year old girls are VERY opinionated and as far as she's concerned, he left her. Period. She's protecting you too. Talk to her, tell her how much her dad loves her and wants to talk with her. Leave it there. It is her choice right now what she chooses to do.

S3, there is another HUGE subject. He has a right to ASK for visitation and you must grant it unless he is endangering your child. However, it does not need to be on his terms. You can determine the length of the visit, if it's overnight, etc.. You have to be strong and lay it all out in front of him.

These are the consequences of his choices. He doesn't get to spend whatever time he wants with his kids. He walked, he chose. You are the custodial parent and until a court of law says what time you must give him, he has to play by your rules.