Running out of time.

[Cie la vie]

CTH,

Dottie, the DB counselor, said in my case, since W first mentioned divorce six years ago that she's been at least somewhat unhappy for at least eight years because it takes two to three years usually for someone to go from thinking the D word to actually saying it.

She said that to warn me this was no six month to one year fix. It is going to take W two years or more to realize she made a mistake -- if she ever does.

My W after having me served said that I had crapped on her for three years. I got a look of what are you talking about on my face immediately. But prior to the birth of our kids we were quite happy from what I could tell. The kid factor completely changed the dynamic of the marriage as they do in all marriages. So from my vantage point and based on what she said she has been unhappy for three years leading up to filing.

I think Dottie is right, I don't see my W owing up to having made a mistake for a couple of years if ever. It's been four months since my W filed and she hasn't even begun to settle into her new life. That alone could take a year and I believe she won't have the opportunity to take inventory of what her decisions have really meant until than.

I think my W may still harbor some anger and resentment toward me and there is no room in her to admit any wrong doing on her part. And if my W is a MLCer she is clearly in the "Replay" stage and not interested in any reconcillation that is for sure.

Anyway you slice it the road will be a long and winding one.