he pointed out a lot of things about me that are not things i am proud of. i do not want to be that way and i've chosen to change my ways.
And that is what makes AGAIN. into AGAIN!
Hopefully, he is recognizing (or will recognize with IC) some of the things you pointed out, too. If he doesn't, you still have learned how to push his 'good buttons' to get changes you want over time.
Are you ready to accept that he'll backslide much more than you? I know to never insult my W. But regardless of why, I still did. I accept that if I can't pay attention to something in the heat of an argument, I will redo mistakes. I might say something that sounds like I want to leave my R. But, it will be a mistake, not on purpose. If you (and my W) can accept that my intention might be much better than the action, accepting a backslide becomes easier. It also prevents a big or small problem spiraling into massive.
You are not really doing anything again. You are doing it differently, and much better from the sounds of it.
