Getting Ready For Divorce

[Gnosis]

Things went a bit screwy... will repeat my post...

Well Crushed, I for one support you wholeheartedly in this endeavor. You need a new life.

Here's something that you have started to discover...

She is playing games as though she is divorcing me. She claimed to be filing in the first week of January. I told her I support her in this. Now she's having second thoughts. "I can't go through with it," etc. This is a script we have been through many times. I decided yesterday that I will go ahead and file in a couple of weeks.

Do you see the dynamic? Did you see the turnaround when you "supported" it? Expect a lot more of this as she tries to regain control of YOU. She has just had her mealticket yanked. Now sit and watch her pursue you.

I hope for your sake that you do not fall for her antics.

She buys lingerie which she's never worn for me and leaves the receipts around (in the last ten years we've had sex about 25 times, total). She stays out late on Friday night, comes home drunk and stinking of whoever she spent her time with.

Let me tell you something about yourself... something that you sure as heck don't seem to be aware of... YOU ARE STRONG! Much stronger than you realize... and probably too darned stubborn for your own good. Many men would have been completely destroyed long time ago with the above antics. You however survived ten years of it.

So don't come here telling us that you are weak and you have no strength because I scream BULLSHIRT! All you need is a break from this poisonous, caustic and toxic creature. Go and take it.

Don't give me this crap:

I would rather leave her with everything (home, car, kids) and simply start over

You fight for what is RIGHT or else all you're doing is further financing and funding her lascivious lifestyle. Heck NO!

I have so much respect for all of you (women and men both) who can put so much time and effort into your relationships.

Not as much respect as I have for you for putting up with this for over TEN YEARS!

I would love to have a wife who cared at all about my feelings. In my situation, divorce is my only option. I suppose I'm the Walk-Away Husband, planning his escape.

Then be the WAS!

You're going to be surprised with the results of what happens when you lay your boundaries and start ENFORCING THEM. I hope when that happens and you see her bat her eyelids that you will continue on the same path. Some relationships were never meant to be salvaged. Your W is seriously damaged. You can't fix her. What you can do is rediscover your self-respect, self-esteem and look forward to a new life.