Getting Ready For Divorce

[crushed_v95]

Hey Bond:

That was basically my thought yesterday. The irony in all this is that it was the Divorce Remedy book which convinced me that I had to do for myself. I was seriously distraught at the idea that I'd be doing this same thing with this same woman 15 years from now. My birthday gift for turning 40 is the idea that I can start over and find some measure of happiness on my own.

She buys lingerie which she's never worn for me and leaves the receipts around (in the last ten years we've had sex about 25 times, total). She stays out late on Friday night, comes home drunk and stinking of whoever she spent her time with. The credit card statements have all been shredded... so that I can't see the details. She blames me for the fact that she had to spend the money. She's refinancing the house to pay them.

She spent our 15th anniversary "partying" while I watched the kids. She has told me over and over that she "will never change, will never be the type to stay home with me on weekends, will never love me..." etc.

I have so much respect for all of you (women and men both) who can put so much time and effort into your relationships. I also appreciate the non-judgmental responses. I would love to have a wife who cared at all about my feelings. In my situation, divorce is my only option. I suppose I'm the Walk-Away Husband, planning his escape.

Thanks for listening folks. I've cried a lot in the last month, not just for myself, but for many of you as well.