I did tell my ex that I removed the phone block and she essentially spat in my face. She came to drop off D3, walked up to the door and I opened it and she sat D3 down. Instead of my taking D3 off of her and closing the door I told her she could come in. She said "why, I'm done with you all you're going to do is yell at me".
I told her D3 had her Valentines card and asked if she didnt want it. (I would have given her that the other day but I was too upset at her having said all that she did.) Then I told her I had taken the block off and she replied snippily that I only did it because she said "what goes around comes around and you wont get to talk to D3 on Fridays" earlier today. I told her that wasnt true. She walked out the door and essentially gave me the "talk to the hand". I said I didnt understand why she was being so vindictive.
After she left, I did something that got rid of about 65% of my anger but that I probably shouldnt have done. I sent her an email with the following in it:
"I did a compassionate act and you spat in my face about it. Believe what you want but my removing that had nothing to do with what you said about me not talking to D3...it's about being the better person in such a sad situation. If you don't want to say goodnight to your daughter that's fine, and if you don't want to let me say goodnight to our daughter that's fine too. As much as she loves having me say goodnight to her since I've done it almost every night since she was born, she knows her life is not the happy one it used to be and will have to get used to it eventually just like she'll have to get used to everything else that's being forced on her in the name of others' happiness. I've been and still could be willing to compromise on things but every time we've made a deal you've changed the rules as you went and said things to get a rise out of me and appease your benefactor...including your threat to murder me if I derailed your gravy train. I really wish the old you that was so sweet and caring could reach out to the new you that seems to be so angry and resentful. A lot of people miss that girl besides myself and D3...and its a tragedy that a few key people are so ecstatic, condoning, and oblivious of the new you that she is likely here to stay."
As I said, I likely shouldnt have sent it as several of the things in there are critical of her actions and could make her mad. Odds are she didnt even read the thing anyway. The positive is that I physically feel better having gotten rid of the anger. Actually I feel sleepy...which is usually what happens when I release a lot of pent up anger.
