Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

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by the way, on my thread you said that inside, you felt like the issues were more her "fault" than yours. i'm sure she would say the same thing about you, right? part of DB-ing is to drop the blame and move past it. as long as you harbor feelings of "this is your fault," even if they are only in your own mind and you don't share them with your W...you'll be sabotaging any effort you make to repair your M.

moving past "fault" has been hard for me. i want to say, well, clearly, my H is the one who wants out, so the blame can fall on him. but it's not that easy. it took BOTH of us, EQUALLY, acting and reacting to one another, to get us to the place that we're in now. hopefully you can look at yourself and your M and see that for all the fault you want to place on her, she probably places an equal amount of fault on you. and where does that leave your M?