What should I do?

[ericmsant2]

Trapt - believe it or not this is actually a 180 for me. I was a good dad but worked a lot and really did not spend as much time as I should have with my kids. W was home for the boys for the first 8 yrs and then worked part time when D8 was born. So she really enjoyed them. I was busy working on a career, traveling and pretty much being an a** (you know typical male imaturity issues). So part of my 180 is trying to be the best Dad I can be. I also really do enjoy being a little bit of a Mr Mom. I am not sure if W like this or care but I enjoy it. My D8 is my world and the boys 14 and 16 have started to connect with me a little more (they LOVE W - adore her and she them) but it was tough at first. They have seen me cry and become a different person overnight. On several occassion the oldest said he wanted the old dad back. The one who would get hammer in his backyard. I explained to him that that guy no longer existed but that the new Dad was still just as cool. The boys kinda of know what is going on - my daughter not so much so. In Jan W said she wanted to tell them and I said tell them what. She said she wanted to tell them that "we decided" and told her that I did not "decided" and did not agree with this. I also did not agree that she should say that "she decided" - I told her I did not know what we should say. Sorry for the long response.