how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

i guess i'm just thinking out loud here...if it's true this is a cylce that will only continue to repeat itself, how much of myself do i want to invest in this R?

Do you think YOU are the same person? Are you approaching the R the same way? I am not trying to overdo a compliment, but I really think that if my W was doing what you have said that you are doing/trying to do, I'd be much less likely to be unhappy.

i don't feel like the same person. all the reading i've done has really altered my perspective of relationships and marriage in general, in a good way. i feel like i have a totally new understanding of how my actions and my reactions affect my H and ultimately, our M. he pointed out a lot of things about me that are not things i am proud of. i do not want to be that way and i've chosen to change my ways. i'm working to make the changes stick. i do appreciate the compliment, it has taken a lot of work and a lot of soul searching on my part to get me to this point. it's been over a month since he first mentioned separating and i have to say, i'm definitely in a better place than he is.