Bombed - 12/2007 - ILYBINILWY - "out of love w/you since you forced me to buy this house..."
Decides to Stay - 1/2008 - never really tells me, but (in a txt) answers me that "he's not going anywhere (?) LOL"
1/2008 - 11/17/2008 - I do about everything wrong... beg, plead, gifts, R talks weekly w/tons of crying
DB'ing Begins - 11/1/2008 - initial superb response, still in the same house/same bed, no further talks, no further intimacy, I am just his kids mom, and (probably) one of his best friends
In a real funk - 12/2009 - 2/2010
CURRENT -
Still living together, still sleeping in the same bed - FINALLY BEGINNING detachment process, FINALLY doing things for ME, Still creating/maintaining a welcoming home (life), Allowing him to come to ME more...
Hey, and, btw, as the thread topic states, I'm finally losing weight!!! Down 15 lbs!
Last edited by mindfull; 02/16/1006:25 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Yay on all the positives: detachment, GAL, weight loss!
I have decided that I need to clean up my diet. Will focus on cutting out the junk and some of the processed foods (because getting rid of all of it would just be insane) and hopefully the weight will come off me too.
And you've inspired me to look into tanning. I definitely don't suffer from SAD (I'm from Seattle, I like grey skies) but it is very relaxing and a hint of color would be good for this pale girl too.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
BBJ - Unfortunately, I have about three sizes of clothing in my closet (don't we all?) LoL So, if I really HAD to, I would be able to scrounge up "some ol' thing" to wear no matter what... But, what fun is that????? Yea, I'm going on a shopping trip in May. Gives me a few months to finish, AND ready for Spring!!! Yea!
Pearl - Things are looking up, a bit... I have to tell you, the witches brew tea really kick started things, got rid of cravings, and helped me tolerate all of these LIVE fruits and veggies non-stop!!! Love the tanning! It's so relaxing! Make sure you get the lotion that gives you the ultimate protection. You're fair, and the bulbs can be brutal!
Luv - Sure!!! It's not for the faint of heart!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Way to go mindfull! I've also been losing weight. In my case not on purpose, but I really hope I can keep it off once the tapeworm dies. Joking!!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
10-4 on the sunscreen. I don't think I've ever gone into a tanning bed/booth without at least 15 on, and these days I wear 50+ due to the altitude.
And if you need an excuse to shop I'll give you a valid one: clutter in your house can be linked to clutter in your emotional life. Organizational experts advise you to get rid of anything in your closet that you haven't worn in the past year. So start cleaning out that closet and I'm sure you'll find you need new small-size clothes!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Luv ya both!