Thanks Cat - I know your right that confronting her about OM will not have the desired effect. But I do have say as a hispanic male..this is a tough pill to swallow..a tough one but one that I will for the love of my W. I appreciate your comments on the message that it sends re: "giving her the time she needs to figure out what she wants". I am working on my patience, which hopefully I'll learn thru this process.

I appreciate your comments and you and everyone are correct I need to focus on me and my kids for a while. The one positive in all of this is the new R I do have with my babies (okay so the 16 year old is 6'1 220 lbs - he still my baby). This is the one positive. I just need to remind myself why I am doing this, which is save my family and become the man that God wants me to be.

I'm going to sign up on FB tonight and will look everyone up.

"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter".
"Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!"
"Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans