My question to the group is - should I continue. Is this a form of pursuit. I think she does appreciate it and I really do it from the bottom of my heart to help her since I know that working a 40 hour week is new to her. Thoughts.
Answer the reason WHY you do this honestly to yourself and you will have your answer.
Maybe you have answered honestly, maybe your haven't.
Your motives should be transparent from your actions.
From my point of view from many of your other posts prior, I believe you seem to think that 'guilt' might be a way to win her back.
It might.
But you REALLY do not want her coming back because of guilt. Your life and marriage would suck beyond what you currently think it does right now.
You want her back for the 'right' reasons, not for 'any' reason. The ends do not justify the means.
The reason you do not involve your kids, is because as the DAD it is your job to protect them, and telling them what mom is doing is NOT PROTECTING them. You are a terrible father to burden your children with that information if you do so. Your W's affairs will come to light, and when that happens you preserve what you can in your childrens mind of their mother.
She either fixes or destroys herself in their minds, and all you do is protect them and that 'good' image of her in them.
THAT is your job, as a father.
They are NOT your support, you dp not cry on their shoulder. You are their rock, not their anchor.
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God Bless Jack...
Please Eric, and seriously, Stop. I get uncomfortable there are others just as deserving, more so in fact, that do not get this treatment or praise.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
