Trusting...I just started reading the thread on your signature...You appear to be in the same sitch as me with the S still in the house. The struggle I continue to have is if she is actually a MLC or a WAS. I understand your comment of being nice, which is what normally I do.

She goes to work very early (a new job - she worked part time for 9 yrs but went out to a get a full time job so that she can take care of herself) and so I get up a make breakfast for her every day. I lay it out and then go upstair. I actually do this because I want to. I want to show her that although she can be "cold" although not nasty - "clinical" would be the best way to describe it. She tells me to have a nice day, I say the same. Since she is working long hours (part of the long hours I believe is spent with OM - who apparently is a supervisor at her job) I make dinner for everyone, including her just about every day. She on the contrary will make dinner for me sometime. I have also noticed that when I offer to make her a sandwich or something she says no that she can do it. I asked about 2 months ago if making her breakfast pissed her off - she said no but that I should not expect anything. Since consitency was an issue in our R I need to remain consist I believe, which is a reason why I continue to do this. My question to the group is - should I continue. Is this a form of pursuit. I think she does appreciate it and I really do it from the bottom of my heart to help her since I know that working a 40 hour week is new to her. Thoughts.

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