None of that can start until you find you, and where your role fits in this MLC.
It DOESN'T make any sense....but find me one LBS, whose spouse's MLC, DID make sense to them.
Is it fair ?
F-fair man...It doesn't matter if it is fair or not....who said life was gonna be fair ?
All of these things that you speak of, are inside of you....
All of the questions......yes
But all of the answers for the path you need to walk, are inside of you.....
I'm really not trying to be short with you, but if I give you ALL of the answers, then essentually, you become you, just thinking like me.....
You aren't gonna reach her right now.....there is no quick fix to MLC.....
It HAS to run it's course....no way around that.....
That is why YOU have to strive to be bigger than her MLC, and move forward with Eric..
I once heard that you have to move forward with the same mindset as if they have passed on from this world....because in reality, the person you knew IS gone right now.....
The love that you speak of......that has to come through in your actions.....way more than your words......
You could move through this and find nobody standing on the other side of the tunnel that YOU have to walk.....that is why it is vital to make the changes for YOU and YOU alone.....
While most MLCers are out to lunch, they are eyes wide open to anything that is fake, because it plays into their hands.....one more reason that they are correct about you.....
Eric, this is the part of the healing process for you right now.....you can use it wisely, or you can get caught up in the why me......
Why you ?
When I would feel like this, and really get down.....
There were times when I would go outside and scream for God to give me more, just so that I could find that breaking point.....
And I know of one more person here that has spoken of that....
( no nickel given )
Peace Eric.....find me on the Alt if you need to talk.....
Look on some friends lists for George waving....you'll know it...
