Mach - I understand that it is a little bit of manipulation but would it not also help to have her focus on our relationship as opposed to another one. If she focused on the other R then how can I expect her to notice any of the changes in ours?

If I am to sit back and allow it what does this say about me then? I mean she is pretty much doing it my face - would someone with confidence in himself sit back and allow it to happen right in his face. We are not separated legally, are still living in the house with our kids. Granted she has said she will file in September but this is a total lack of respect. How can she respect me if I sit back and allow it - actually as I wrote this I guess she does not respect me now.

I'm still torn about why I should not confront her about this. Can you explain.

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