This stuff seems so basic--I guess I have a lot to relearn. So let me begin at the bottom and ask you to give me some examples. Are you talking about states of being, concrete goals, objectives? Sorry to be so obtuse, but I think you're onto something that I've been missing. Thanks!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012