Last year, I walked around hating my wife. Feeling really bad & major guilt trips when I felt this. She isn't a bad woman, but we weren't getting along and she was just pure nasty.
This year, no guarantees on the M, but the hate is gone. Understanding her better has helped. Did you read, "men are from mars, women are from venus" or "improve your marriage without talking about it"? They both helped a lot.
That doesn't mean the BS maynard talked about is any less, nor less deserving of your anger. It is just that your anger won't make the M work. If you don't want to get rid of your anger with her & the sitch, how can you stay M?
