Like OP said...MC and Retro....they probably won't help due to there focus on saving the marriage. But they can also both be instrumental in keeping your own heads straight if used individually by you. MC will come if it does, if not so be it. My wife and I discussed it a few weeks ago. She was not ready for it, but would still continue IC for herself. When she was ready we would go to MC to work on things we have noted that need work. I wasn't disappointed because I realize that she is taking care of herself first and that has to happen before we work on the marriage just as I need to continue working on myself.
I caught up on your whole stich Trent....You are doing very well. I wonder about your wife being MLC, but there is definitely something a little bit more off than the usual WAS. Hopefully MACH will find you...I think his approach could really benefit you.
I haven't read the books that have been suggested, but I will make another suggestion. Look around for sites that cover true confessions of moms (not porn site...forums...need to clarify). These sites (often include wives) will give you an insight into what real wives think and feel. It is an eye opener to say the least.
