no worries, OTM. i do want to ask, though...if you had no children or if they were all grown or at least older - would you hesitate to leave the M? you've said that you questioned the M from the start, so i'm just curious.

i do agree that my H seems to be feeling less like our M is doomed. at dinner the other night he told me that he doesn't understand this "demon" that drives him to only see the negative, and that assures him that the only thing to do is leave. hopefully his new counselor can help him work through some of these things. it just really confuses me to hear him so adamantly insist for a month that this is what is best for us (separation) and then, 2 weeks after he moves out and is living on his own, he's calling, emailing, wanting to see me, questioning his decision.

i don't want to be too optimistic if this is all just a reaction to him being lonely, living alone and just missing life with his wife. i guess i just don't know what's real emotion and what's just his reaction to all of this.

Me30 H29
M2.5 T5
H moved out 1/23/2010
H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010
...feeling hopeless