My best gf's FIL died and S26 and I attended his funeral last night.
I just got an email from H this morning asking me why I didn't tell him.
To be honest my gf and I didn't want to tell H because we were afraid he would show up there with ow. None of us wanted to deal with that at that time. Also when H left me he left behind contact with the people that were our friends, too..What do I tell H???
OP - I understand what you're saying, but NC is not easy especially while still having younger children. I did do NC with him for a while, but have found it easier dealing with H by using a friendlier approach. This is also a 180 because there was very little communication or interaction (his choice) with H for quite a while before he left.
My gf's H was my H's best friend. H has only talked to him once since he left and that had to do with a buck contest at work. They work in the same place. If her H had wanted him to know I think he would have told him.
It's not in my job description anymore to keep him informed of this kind of thing. H's choice again.
My gf's H was my H's best friend. H has only talked to him once since he left and that had to do with a buck contest at work. They work in the same place. If her H had wanted him to know I think he would have told him.
This is your answer. You thought the best friend told him.
While maybe you did, maybe you didn't, he does not need to know that.
You are correct, it is not your job to keep him informed of such things anymore, and honestly, the real reason would not be received well.
Keep your response simple and short.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
