Help. I need some advice.

My best gf's FIL died and S26 and I attended his funeral last night.

I just got an email from H this morning asking me why I didn't tell him.

To be honest my gf and I didn't want to tell H because we were afraid he would show up there with ow. None of us wanted to deal with that at that time. Also when H left me he left behind contact with the people that were our friends, too..What do I tell H???