Well, she brought it up...she said she had to call BS on that! What should I say? Should I say "I did and I do love you still, but I don't expect anything from you." ?
No, I wouldn't argue with her....and that is what it would lead to. I mostly meant later if she brought it up like she did before, that you could remind her that you told her or that you do still love her. If she reacts in such a negative way, then about the best thing to say would be, "I'm sorry you feel that way," and let it drop. I meant that you don't need to expect anything from her or to even say ILY in a way that might hint that you expected anything positive in return. You may or may not have another time to tell her, but if you do...that was my suggestion.
It must be very hard when somebody is saying that it is BS that you ever loved them. I don't think I would say it again unless you felt the time was right. I do think it was right to tell her when Coach suggested it b/c of the reasons I gave before. You may or may not have a "right" time again, but I wouldn't change that statement regardless of how angry she got. You love her, and are sorry she feels the way she does. Those are the facts.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
