The movie is funny. I laughed the entire time. I hope that you and your wife will have a great time.
Good recommendation we both laughed a lot. That was pretty much it.
The plot was taken right out of the DB playbook.
My dad got his petscan yesterday he has gone down hill quite a bit more this week. He thought while he was laying in his bed that he was looking up at the tall buildings in NYC. Hopefully some time next week he will get on meds for Parkinsons. He needs it.
I'm very sorry to hear about your father. Let's hope and pray his medications will arrive shortly. I'm keeping him in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
OP - BTW I noticed it was your BD - Happy BD buddy. Thanks for all of you support.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
OP-Holy cow dude. You've replied to a few of my posts and it is much appreciated! Like you I have alot on my plate right now-Father having serious health issues, son with a mental health condition that left him homeless and in jail for 6 months, and now living with me, a business that has dropped 90% in 2 years and a wife that described a MLC w/o even knowing it today, and wishing life would end for her.
If challenges make us stronger, move over Arnold.
I do believe your wife with all her issues, is much ahead of mine most days. Mine moved out over 4 months ago for the 3rd time and informed me today she is moving 200 miles away, and has no desire to go to IC or MC and wants me to get on with signing her D filing-so I am.
You have several positives going for you. Lots of great advice given, and I learned alot for me while reading through your thread. Good luck to you, I'll be watching your progress, as we are darn near the same age, and similar sitch's. My wife's big db is in the bedroom, but the $$$ debate came up today too.
I expect to continue to learn from you and others on what I can do to make me better. Lead on.
Hello OldPilot, It looks like you've got things well in hand and focused on yourself. You've also got an awful lot on your plate, and I feel for you. What doesn't kill us will make us stronger, that's for sure.
And we don't know how much strength we really do have until it starts getting piled on thicker and thicker..as God never puts anymore on us than we can bear at any given time. He knows our strength even better than we do; as I've found out many times.
The "why me" questions are usually never answered..and so we seem to have no other choice than to secure the tools we need for the job at hand. If we had answers to all our questions, we'd still have troubles understanding; as I well know..so got to let go of what we don't know or understand, and trust the rest to Him that does know it all. And in time, things become clear as hindsight is truly 20/20.
Hang in there, I'll be talking to you again.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
After some back and forth e-mails yesterday I have determined that I am a "FIXER". I will take ownership of this and I need to determine how to work on this. What should I do about this. I know that in my previous(same) M my W would be happy with this situation since she "needed" to be fixed. I obviously stopped providing this to her in at least a $$$ way.
Let me add in to this that her and I are really reconnecting. Last night my D23 was having a sort of meltdown and wants to quit both of her jobs. She did not want to talk to me but spoke to my W who gave her excellent advice. MY W and I discussed these things this morning and it almost felt like old times. My W also admitted she is going through the change and her hot flashes are starting to subside, although she was having one while we spoke.
In any event I certainly am not trying to fix any of the above events but I am trying to understand what MY condition means and what if anything I should do about it.
OP, You are doing well. Most of us that come here have the "fixer" pattern down to a science. All you can really do is step back and allow your w to figure things out for herself. You've been doing that and she appears to be coming around a little bit at a time.
Keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
