I am really sorry you are here, but you will receive very good advice.
My W decided to end our M without any warning and to this day I am still devastated even after 15 months! I haved never proved it but I am pretty sure when was/is now involved with OM and our relationship has ended completely - no emails, no texts, nothing. She filed for D within two months of dropping the bomb - no discussion, no mediation, no counselling. It was as though she just turned off a light switch. Our divorce is in two weeks and I am not looking forward to seeing her as I still love my love even after all she has done.
For you I would give your H as much space as you can. I was given this advice but I DB'ed very badly, though to be honest my W was gone even if I had followed DB to the letter, she would still have filed as she had made her mind up. You have to decide whether you would want your H back if he is involved in an affair, or is it a dealbreaker for you. Trust is crucially important in a relationship - could you trust your H if he came back to you?
Try and fill you time with things to do - gym, clubs, friends, anything to take your mind off your situation. Take it from me it is the toughest thing to do, and I still suffer from depression now, but there is no other way around this. Take one day at a time, prepare your future for just you and your child and let your H alone, it is hard but from my experience it is the correct strategy at the moment.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
