She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[flowmom]

Awoken, what an unpleasant family situation to come home to. I feel sad for your children that they are having to deal with your W's craziness. And sad for you that you can't count on the mother of your children to act based on their well-being. I wish you the strength you'll need to take action on this.

I can understand your having mixed feelings about spending that time with your female friend. Next time a situation arises, you can commit to checking in with yourself to see if it feels right in your gut.