#2: WAH separated from us & I'm on the DBing path

[newmama]

Flowmom, it's interesting that your IC wants to talk to him about "dating" boundaries. I have read sitches on here where the separation was open in the sense both spouses could date. So whatever you choose my dear, is up to you and we need to butt out.

But I had to add that I am not interested in dating... Yet I met a male friend online 3 months ago on a different infidelity forum. We both love our spouses and were sharing our sitches. Here is the progression:
message on the forum-emails--> texts--->phone calls
-talk about our spouses-->talk about ourselves-->oops--sex talk?-nah, we were just kidding around...right?
-his W filed for D, mine hasn't (yet) so one of us is "available"

I found myself thinking "too bad he lives on the east coast" and the very next thought was "HOLY MOLY-this is THE slippery slope!" and felt instant regret and then had a clear understanding of how vulnerable I am to any attention of a kind male. And my male friend is in the same boat...vulnerable. I have decided to not date during this separation so I cooled the jets as soon as that fantasy thought hit. Sorry I hijacked your thread!!!