Have you read His Needs Her Needs? It's quite interesting. A quotation for you:
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If a husband seriously wants to meet his wife's need to feel close to him, he will give the task sufficient time and attention. I tell male clients they should learn to set aside fifteen hours a week to give their wives undivided attention. [...] When a courting couple shares their time, they usually have two basic, although possibly unconscious goals. They try to (1) get to know each other more thoroughly, and (2) let each other know how much they care for each other.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.