Beware venting is ahead..sorry- nowhere else to go.
So my lawyer forwarded an email from H's lawyer in which he shared the conversation from Saturday where H was upset and I was inappropriate...Feel like I've been tattled on! I clarified the situation/tone of the conversation for my lawyer but haven't heard back from him.
H texted tonight that he could take D12 to the doctor tomorrow since she told him I was taking her. He asked
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Why did you take the morning off without asking for help?
D12 wants nothing to do with H and asked me if I would take her since I recommended she get tested for strep(hasn't barely eaten a thing in 2 days). I told H I'd already gotten morning off to take D12 because she asked me to take her(which is true)..then I asked him a tax question..at the end our texts he sends this:
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Look forward to the time that you take me being a parent as seriously as you do money. None of this needs to be this way I have always advocated win-win
Ok so I have so many responses to these two texts... I have taken care of the chldren without asking for help because he walked away. When he was living with us and I would ask him for help with the kids he would get angry and make me feel guilty like I didn't respect him being self-employed...Which do I believe? The helpful parent or the put-upon disrespected husband? Can't have it both ways!
This is the man who when he told the kids he was leaving (again) and we were divorcing said he'd see the girls every day, talk to them every day...He texts them maybe once a week and has had lunch with them maybe once every 2 weeks. That seems to be worthy of me taking him seriously!
I know if I responded it would just deteriorate- I wish he could really have a moment of clarity, but he really doesn't. I'm the bad guy.
How can he advocate a win-win in a divorce where he wants half the money that should be going into the girls' college fund. Where he is asking for me to pay him almost half my monthly pay for the next three months... I don't think I'm winning in this and certainly our daughters are NOT.
It boggles my mind the way he selectively changes his mind. When he moved home last June we talked about how we couldn't see how we could have afforded to divorce..he seems to think "we" can now...He never wanted any of my "stuff" yet he is asking for and seems to feel entitled to half of everything.
He wanted to be a man and support himself and face his fear(that he can't support himself) yet he is clinging to the lifeboat of my financial assets. Something he said he didn't want to do...
I guess it feels like he is a walking contradiction. He doesn't see it at all. I get so mad, cool off, then am just plain sad.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
